How to win friends and influence people
Years ago, in fact many years ago, I read Dale Carnagie's book How to win friends and influence people. It was an easy read but its contents would take more life experience before I could really implement the subject matter.
In high school, I could be described as somewhat shy. I envied the more popular in my school. How'd they manage to become so popular? I figure it's making everyone they meet feel both comfortable and special. They also tended to engage others rather than wait to be engaged in conversation. It sounds easy but unfortunately our personal hangups get in the way.
In my life now, I don't try to lead with my credentials but rather as a person who is really interested in learning more about the individual I'm speaking with. That emotional barrier which precluded me from engaging with more people is gone and I'm happy to just have a chat with someone.
There are those Debbie Downers I meet from time to time who seem filled with their own self importance and put on a front of superiority. That's fine if it works for them but I'd rather be in a group of people whom I can connect with than as an elitist who is projecting an image of how much better he/she is than the rest of the community.
By the way, I wholeheartedly encourage you to check out the book I mentioned from the Library. It was that good.
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Richard J. Garcia | 11/19/2010